FAMILY FROM OUR WEDDING

Friday, September 28, 2007

BORN TO BE WILD.. and other Friday banter...

Get your motor runnin'
Head out on the highway
Lookin' for adventure
And whatever comes our way

Yeah come on I know you are singing it... though I love that song .. Steve and I fall in the cruiser category of motorcyclists... you know the ones.. the older cyclists ( and we are by no means old) who you pass on the highway in your car.. and you wonder.. are they NUTS?? or maybe even.. "I wish i could be doing that" .. so we are not the rough and tumble image of a biker couple that a lot of folks have an image of provided by our very thoughtful media.... people have such a misconception of what a motorcyclist is. In today's world you have a lot of riders that are doctors and lawyers.. and business folks who like to cut loose on the weekend.. You have crotch rockets ( speed bikes) and cruisers( folks who travel on their bikes long distance and also folks who love a good long sunday ride..... and retired folks.. its really an awesome very friendly community of people.. even those bikers .. you might think of as rough... can be some Amazingly awesome folk.. I guess it goes back to that.. you should never judge someone by how they look...

that's a perfect segue into...

MY FRIDAY RANT: IMPERFECTION is perfectly perfect....

FAT PEOPLE... hmmm funny how when you say those two words ...you can say them in a very detached way or in a very ANGRY way... People look at folks like us... they either are not affected or they think .. sheeesh look at that pig.. can't that person control themselves? what on earth does that freak eat to be that big? etc... etc... etc...

Sometimes these same folk feel as if they must remind us that we are large... GOD you are so FAT!.. who let the HOG out! ... you know.. if you would just watch your weight ... and my favorite.. YOU HAVE SUCH A PRETTY FACE... sheesh.. the funniest to me was when a doctor actually said to me once ( a bone doctor) You know you are overweight.. if you just would lose some weight I think it might help.. YA THINK???? sheesh...

HEY you guys... listen up... YOU ARE NOT HELPING ME BY REMINDING ME THAT I AM LARGE, PLUMP, FAT, BIG , CHUNKY, CHUBBY, SQUEEZABLE, TEDDY BEAR, ROTUND, ROUND , OR in general taking up too much space! If you want to help me.. DO NOT JUDGE ME LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN ONLY LOUDER
DO NOT JUDGE ME!!!!

FOR YOU.. yes.. YOU ...are not with out fault..
for you are just as fragile and weak as me..
for you are strong and smart .. so am I ..
for you have most of the same issues has I do...
for you and I are just a like in the most simplest of terms...
we each are HUMAN
...a complex creature filled with all types of anxiety, emotion, love, passion, hate, drama, joy, habits, issues, wonderment, illness, weakness and strength .... and ..
IMPERFECTION ...
imperfection makes us perfect..
perfectly human..
no such thing as perfection...wait.. thats it... THAT IS IT!!!!!!!! that really is it.. that line.. imperfection makes us perfect...
.. the IMPERFECTION IS WHAT IS PERFECT!!!!!!!
I have said that so many times before.... and for some reason.. now I really see it.. ( maybe its the big letters)....
...nothing is perfect but imperfection.. because it is always there... all of the time...in some form..

so please
stop judging me based on what you think I should or should not be...
I am waging my own personal war against myself NO longer... For if I battle myself.. while you bomb me with your words of how not right I am ...
then I have absolutely nothing...
my war is over...
so back off..

We all are in this tug .. this pull.. okay maybe it is a war...still.... with ourselves...
... we sit there and rip ourselves vicously apart because of the battle we wage against over eating... the scale , the clothes.. the mirror...
Each of us have our own arsenils loaded with weapons of mass destruction against ourselves..
words, games, starving ourselves... over feeding ourselves.. forgetting to nourish ourselves in the most basic of ways..
because we too have started to judge ourselves ... but we are HUMAN..... and like I listed above..
Humans are not perfect...
So put your weapons away...
Go look in that mirror... look at yourself...
nod...
accept what you really see...
and move on... the scale.. that little flashy thing with numbers.. its really not weapon of mass destruction.. its simply a tool to help guide you.. a tool that should never be misused.. FOR IT IS VERY POWERFUL.. yeah . you know what i mean.. You.. the one that gets on and off and on and off and on and off.. going to the bathroom.. getting back on... standing their naked in your imperfectly perfect body.. and wondering why you simply can not weigh less today.... use it wisely.. use the scale wisely and weekly... instead of every day... or if you need it every day .. only weigh once a day... use it as a tool.. not a weapon to bash yourself... You are not the sum of your pounds... you are the width and depth of your soul and compassion.. that is the real you...inside that physical you .... the one you see more often than the real you.... Use your tools... ban your weapons...
.. TOOLS...... We destroy with weapons... ( not really protecting anything)..but with tools.. we build... with faith.. we build.. with hope we build... with perseverance we succeed.
So .. as this Friday Rant winds down... I leave you with this simple thought..
Stop judging yourself... put the weapons of judgement away.. and use your tools of success.. you have them.. you really do have them... ( think weapons turned inside out... ) think negative thoughts turned into something positive... Let go of the judgement.. Look the other way when others judge you... and be true to what you want... GETTING HEALTHY .. both physically and mentally... and being strong....
Wish me well..
Wish you well too..
Get your motor runnin
'Head out on the highway
Lookin' for adventure
And whatever comes our way

4 comments:

Lyn said...

**applause**
Now THAT was motivational!
And yeah, I hate the comments and stares too. Sometimes, I have something I want to stand up for, but the weight gets in the way. After all, who is gonna take a fat heifer like me seriously? (I don't think I am a heifer, but I have been called such). Once a guy was smoking in a no-smoking zone when I was taking my sick child into the hospital. I said, nicely as I was approaching, "This is a no smoking area" and he laughed at me, and said, "You just keep hoofing along!" I was so hurt, insulted, degraded. I said nothing more but I did tell a person in the hospital he was smoking out there. Granted, he did not call me fat, but he looked me over and said I was HOOFING!! I would have liked to give him a taste of my hoof.

Anyway we are gonna do this!! Keep on being healthy :)

Too Fat To Fly... said...

Another thought provoking post, Honi....

I too have suffered many, many taunts over my size. You know, the *usual* misconceptions that people have about the overweight. I.e.:

Ugly
Lazy
Smelly
Stupid
Greedy

, etc., etc., etc....

I guess the list goes on!

It's just so unnecessary. Goodness, we cannot be seen as ageist, racist, sexist, yet it's appears to be perfectly okay for people to be *fatist*.

:-(

Once Upon A Dieter said...

THERE YA GO. I can hear cannons firing! :)

I guess cause I have that Latin temper, when people have been rude cause of my weight, I find a way to snap back, either hyperintellectually or with wit or just with a rebuke. I don't take that crap too diplomatically. :) But it still hurts, depending on the day and the context and my mood.

The scale is a tool. That's one of my mantras.

Thanks, Honi

The Princess

Scale Junkie said...

YOU ROCK!! I'm so tired of being judged. I'm so tired of the not so quiet whispers, I'm fat, I'm not DEAF! I'm so tired of being stared at and treated like we just don't have feelings. I shower every day, my clothes are clean and wrinkle free, I work hard, I exercise and I eat right (now) Fat prejudice is the last safe prejudice and I wish they knew, we have feelings too.