tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post8393592144495079780..comments2023-10-25T06:46:26.332-05:00Comments on A TASTE OF HONI: SOMETHING TO SAY.... MY SWING...Honihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15359367037727685694noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post-1568165062207740462011-09-14T03:21:53.649-05:002011-09-14T03:21:53.649-05:00It is very well designed. Thanks for sharing.
a...It is very well designed. Thanks for sharing. <br /><br /><br /><a href="http://adidasbasketballshoessale.com" rel="nofollow"><em>adidas basketball shoes sale</em></a>sakset.shttp://breakfastfoodsale.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post-21011188034734398402008-03-04T11:24:00.000-06:002008-03-04T11:24:00.000-06:00I am no stranger to "Mother Issues". Manipulative...I am no stranger to "Mother Issues". Manipulative, demanding, and judgemental. <BR/><BR/>A long time ago, I simply started to observe my mother's behavoirs, the same way an anthropologist would observe a member of a primitive tribe.<BR/><BR/>Any comments about you, are simply telling you about her and what type of person she is. <BR/><BR/>I no longer cringe when I hear her start with "You know what? I think you should...." When I hear that, I stop everything and give her my undivided attention. I usually repy with "What a great idea, why had I not thought of that." Then I completely ignore whatever she said.<BR/><BR/>Of course, it also means that over time I have become emotionally detached from her, but that is the price I pay for sanity and peace.<BR/><BR/>The lesson I have learned from this is to adjust my communication style with my own children. Once or twice a week, I ask their opinion on something. It does not matter what. I want them to feel that our conversations are not simply about what we expect from them, but also that they too have opinions and I am intersted in what they think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post-70360670374430917782008-03-04T08:52:00.000-06:002008-03-04T08:52:00.000-06:00Oh lady I could write a book on mother issues as w...Oh lady I could write a book on mother issues as well. But I just wanted to let you know that I totally sympathize with you. If i had any advice I would offer it but I can barely deal with my mother issues. LOL Just like you I love her...but man sometimes she can make it REALLY hard.Fairy Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09431401857396963298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post-1007406184689920102008-03-04T05:19:00.000-06:002008-03-04T05:19:00.000-06:00Oy vey. I'm so sorry that your mom brought out the...Oy vey. I'm so sorry that your mom brought out the worst in you the other night. I feel the same way about myself so often, Honi.<BR/><BR/>Know that you're doing your best. I don't think weight, health, good habits come naturally. I also don't think these things will be something we 'conquer.' I think we have to work at them daily. Forever. Just the way things are, I guess.<BR/><BR/>The powerful message in your post is that you had INSIGHT into your eating pattern and could trace its roots. In the past, perhaps you just beat yourself up in a senseless manner. That's progress, sister.<BR/><BR/>I'm proud of you for understanding your mom and her shortcomings. As daughters, I think that's one of the toughest things we do in life because we still love them even at their worst.<BR/><BR/>*hard hugs*Mouthy Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13390913450937641605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post-32496978146101594892008-03-04T00:53:00.000-06:002008-03-04T00:53:00.000-06:00Your mom sounds a lot like my mom - and I used to ...Your mom sounds a lot like my mom - and I used to attack myself after being with her as well. I had to lay down some boundaries, which was hard, but it sure worked. She watches what she says now and I have trained myself to react better to her. Once I committed to the process, the situation actually improved quite quickly.<BR/><BR/>And why do they always leave their sunglasses everywhere they go?Hanliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16476650601531649816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post-62086240742435978212008-03-04T00:25:00.000-06:002008-03-04T00:25:00.000-06:00Awww... I'm so sorry that you have to deal with th...Awww... I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this kind of stress with your mother! Stress of any kind sucks... but when it comes from a family member... it is somehow worse!<BR/><BR/>This trip to Israel sounds like just what the doctor ordered! I'm so happy that you are going! :)Chubby Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09130319992240173318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post-73725666442519495352008-03-03T17:17:00.000-06:002008-03-03T17:17:00.000-06:00I posted about mindless eating today too but it so...I posted about mindless eating today too but it sounds as if you are eating to drown out your Mom. <BR/><BR/>Don't beat yourself up for this. Some of this comes from your history. Learn to put it in its place and find a better way around it!Diana Swallow https://www.blogger.com/profile/06617104284642930333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542206403212269449.post-23029150713819927912008-03-03T16:45:00.000-06:002008-03-03T16:45:00.000-06:00I fully understand. Maybe one way to stop the eat...I fully understand. Maybe one way to stop the eating is to stop and right down everything you are about to eat - kind of get you out of the self-hypnosis you were under with eating three small slices of cake. It's like driving the same way everyday where you don't remember driving part of it because you had literally, self-hypnotised yourself. Same with the eating food mindlessly (a word that I hate!).<BR/><BR/>Don't beat yourself up, recognize you were not aware of it, and make a plan.<BR/><BR/>Hope you have a better week.Grumpy Chairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17719618593765537673noreply@blogger.com